It’s Liz Leia, your inside woman, and I’m excited to post this article from Chelsea on how to give a special Valentine’s day gift. You can apply these gift giving principles to birthdays and other holidays too! Enjoy…
Valentine’s Day is on Monday.
This is the day men and women alike celebrate the day St. Valentine was beaten to death and beheaded.
February 14th has been a day of anxiety for men ever since.
As a result, companies such as Hallmark, Tiffany’s, and Russell Stover sell romantic items to benefit The St. Valentine Foundation themselves.
Don’t get me wrong – I actually love this holiday. But thanks to the majority of wealth being unevenly distributed toward companies with super-ultra-mass marketing campaigns, there’s a difference between what a lot of men feel like they’re “supposed to do” VS what they actually feel like doing on Valentine’s Day.
So why would you want to celebrate it anyway?
Because it’s important to us women.
Let’s not focus on why it’s important…just know that it is. Even if your woman shares the opinion that it’s all ridiculously commercial, the fact is she’s still a woman and doesn’t want you to do NOTHING. Even if she hasn’t made any hints or talked about wanting to celebrate… she’s still hoping you’ll do something romantic.
But what do you do for her?
You’ll find this blog useful if you’re wondering how to have fun on Valentine’s Day instead of feeling like it’s a contrived obligation. I’m going to share with you how to come up with a great V-day gift that she will love MORE than the cliché flowers, chocolates, and jewelry etc.
This article is all about the significance of giving with significance.
To start, the gift that you’ll want to give her depends on your woman’s desires. So if she’s been hinting all year long that she would love some jewelry… don’t sign her up for pole dancing lessons.
Whether a woman wants chocolate, clothes, a romantic night out on February 14th… what she’s really looking for are those feelings of love and desire.
I came up with inspiration to write this because, I’m excited to announce, I recently got engaged. Hooray for Chelsea! (And no, I’m not telling you this to put crazy ideas into your head of what an appropriate thing to do on Valentine’s Day is. )
The story I’m about to share with you will give you insight into what’s going on in a woman’s mind, and how to give her something that’s special and really meaningful to both of you.
While we were looking for engagement rings, something about the shopping trips didn’t feel quite right.
My fiancé could tell, and then he thought of an amazing idea.
He noticed my body hadn’t totally healed from a shoulder injury I got a while ago. Lately we were talking about me trying ART (Active Release Techniques) – which is deep tissue massage you can use on certain injuries to get your full range of motion back.
He knew that if he got me a diamond ring right now, we probably wouldn’t be able to afford a series of ART sessions for another good few months. So he thought, “What would she rather have – an expensive ring … or a fully healed shoulder?”
Yeah… I got the massages instead of diamonds.
This is big – because I’m quite the visual girly girl who likes romantic traditions. But after he brought it up, I could no longer stand thinking about how my shoulder was going to continue being injured so we can pay some business guy who’s “employed” all these African slave kids mining diamonds – which aren’t even the prettiest stones out there – so he can have more money he doesn’t really need while my shoulder continues to suck.
This week I completed my 4th ART session, and I’m feeling all sorts of loved and sexy.
Those feelings are what your woman wants.
This year, use Valentine’s Day to have fun and to show her how much you appreciate and care for her. Do whatever it is that will give both of you the feelings of love, desire, happiness… whether that’s jewelry or going to an arcade or something different that’s creative and unique to your relationship.
Feeling stuck? Here are some questions that will spark creative, romantic ideas:
- Is there an inside joke you guys share? Try typing that joke into Google search/images – it’s amazing what you’ll come up with! Example: My fiancé really loves the game Portal, so one year for his birthday I made him a cake that looks like the Portal cake (minus the fish shaped solid waste and sediment shaped sediment)
- Have you noticed her talking about really wanting something? She’s probably dropped some hints about things she would love to have. Have you gone to the mall recently and heard her say something like, “Oooh that scarf is so cute!” Or, “I’m really interested in this book” or “I’ve been needing to finish this project (cleaning the house, etc) but I haven’t had the time.” (Hint: If you’re really stuck you can ask her friends or even look at things she’s posted on Facebook.)
- Have you two spent quality time together recently? Think back to the last time you two were hanging out and it felt like nothing else in the world mattered. You guys felt connected and completely focused on each other. If it’s been a while since that happened, make an effort to push aside whatever has been stopping you from connecting with her, and make the night about just you two – whatever you guys end up doing.
Remember, the most important thing you can do on Valentine’s Day is to have a fun, loving time together and to give with significance.
Rockin’ the cubic z,